My Childbirth Manifesto

“Remember this, for it is as true as true gets: Your body is not a lemon. You are not a machine. The Creator is not a careless mechanic. Human female bodies have the same potential to give birth well as aardvarks, lions, rhinoceri, elephants, moose, and water buffalo. Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend that you learn to think positively about your body.”
Ina May Gaskin, Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth

As I prepare to welcome my daughter into the world in just a few weeks, I have taken some time to reflect on what this process means to me, and how the choices I make now will affect the way she arrives. I have a great deal of expectation and anticipation, but I know that if I am able to just let go and allow my body to do what it was made for, things will be great. I just can’t wait to hold her in my arms. My doula passed out the following sheet during our class, and it was very inspiring to me. I would like to think of this as my “childbirth manifesto” (author is unknown).

I choose love…

This is my baby’s birth day.  Today I will put my needs, my desires, my hopes and my feelings on hold so I can concentrate on giving my baby the birth she needs.

I choose joy…

I will not give into the temptation to wallow in self-pity. I will celebrate each contraction as one step closer to holding my baby.  I will remind myself that this is the event I have waited for for so many months.

I choose peace…

I will not battle my body or baby.  I will simply allow my baby to use my body as an entrance point for life.

I choose patience…

I will overlook the incoveniences of labor.  Rather than complain that the wait is too long, I will be thankful for the time to savor this change in my life.  I will use this time to put my heart and mind in a state of joy to meet my baby.

I choose kindness…

I will be kind to my baby. I will not allow myself to benefit by putting her at risk.

I choose goodness…

I will not let myself use labor as an excuse to be rude, angry, mean, hurtful, lazy or prideful. This is my first opportunity to teach my baby about relationships.

I choose faithfulness…

Today, I will keep my promise to my baby. My family will not question my love.

I choose gentleness…

Nothing is won by force.  If I raise my voice may it only be in praise. If I clench my fist, may it be only in prayer.  If I make a demand, may it be only of me.

I choose self-control…

I will not allow myself to lower my standards simply because I am in labor.  I will continue to strive for excellence regardless of the pain.

Now… who wants to remind me of this when I am in the throes of transition? First volunteer gets a prize! :)

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